Sunday, April 13, 2008

Can we talk about something else?

Do we have to (please excuse my french) f**king talk about men every time we get on the phone? I am sooooo tired of talking about them. We are all educated sisters with plenty going on in our lives, but it seems like every time I call a close friend or they call me, we end up talking about them (men). Why? Its not going to change anything. It is getting to the point to where I do not want to talk to them because THAT'S ALL WE EVER TALK ABOUT. I try to change the subject, but somehow we get right back on it. I am trying to just concentrate on me, and I feel if I keep myself busy that I will not think about men and the issues (or lack of having a man) concerning them. Do I have to be reminded everyday that I am single? You do not have to tell me that you are unhappy single, I KNOW!!! Yes, "friend" I know its hard finding a good man. No "friend" I do not know why we keep getting deadbeats portraying themselves as men. Nevertheless you have to be the good friend and sit there and listen and be supportive because probably I was the one bitching about it last week. LOL!! Lets talk about:
  1. Politics
  2. Fashion (there are these "high waisted jeans" from Levi and Guess that I want so bad!!)
  3. TV
  4. Our friendship
  5. Careers
  6. Memories
  7. Spirituality
  8. Fitness
  9. Establishing a time to meet up or get together
  10. Anything else other than MEN!!!!!

So I am going to try something new this week, whenever I talk to a girlfriend, I will not mention men at all. If they mention men, I will give them five minutes of convo on this subject and change it. If they try to come back to it, I am going to inform them that I am tired of talking about men (because we are basically talking a particular incident that we have over analyzed for the past couple of days, weeks, months, and sometime years) and if we cannot talk about something else I am getting off the phone. Time to start showing these girls/women (and myself) TOUGH LOVE!!!



A Diva Undone said...

Interesting thought...I pondered the other day why all of my communications with most of my "girlfriends" have ceased. I think it was for that very reason...too much of me talking about men. It is sad because I do miss them all so. I think it is toxic for two reasons: 1. It stunts the growth of the relationships with our girlfriends and 2. We are so busy talking it out with our girlfriends when we need to be talking it out with the man in our lives.

Kudos! Great post.

quarter-life-crisis said...

Thanks Diva!!

Its just Tuesday and I am having a hard time. One particular friend called and before we can say hello to each other, she goes to say, "Gurl let me tell you what "so & so" did......."

I stop her and say dang can we talk about something other than men? Lets just say I had to make up an excuse to get off the phone.

Smarty Jones said...

Excellent post! I might have to bite you on this one. I getting tired myself. I like your spot, I'm adding you to my roll. You should stop by my spot(s) some time, drop a line and let me know what you think.

quarter-life-crisis said...

Thanks smarty!!

It is working with all my girlfriends EXCEPT one (thats the one I talk to EVERYDAY). I wanna be like dang call me when you have something else to talk about, but she is my family. So I sit there and listen to the nonsense. :(